The Human Touch: Thoughts about the Teachings of Esther/Abraham Hicks
I am really into the Law of Attraction. I believe in and the power that our thoughts make on our reality and what comes to us.
One of the best known lecturers on The Law of Attraction is Esther Hicks who is allegedly channeling a group of beings collectively known as “Abraham.” While the advice given is generally sound, I do confess a certain unease at the whole channeling thing; it smacks of a scam, especially given there are books, DVDs, CDs, cruises, seminars, and so forth for sale in great abundance. People pay lots of money for an audience with Abraham and to get a personalized reading of sorts from them in the hopes of turning their lives around.
In such a context it becomes a bit of a minefield as one searches for truly helpful affirmations and advice from all the clutter.
In general there is a measure of common sense to it. Obviously if you are hateful and vindictive, you are not going to attract love. Like attracts like. So hate bring more hate. This really is common sense. It speaks to the core of the law of attraction — you reap what you sow!
But a side effect inevitably comes when you rank order your emotions: you repress the ones that you judge wrong or inappropriate. That is to say you still have the emotions because they are part of the human experience. They make us Sentient spiritual creatures. There is no capacity to love if there is absolutely no capacity to hate as well; the capacity for BOTH is what defines each on both a psychological and practical level.
So to love you have to also be able to hate. To trust, you have to be able to not trust. To be honest, you have to possess the ability to lie. This is also what I find troubling and unrealistic about the ways that Christians talk about God. If God is ONLY LOVE, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS, ETC and CANNOT experience those other things as well then is God truly a Sentient and living being and therefore objectively existing at all? No wonder it is easy for atheists to argue that God was created by humankind and not the reverse!
And so we are brought back to this organization of emotions. What happens to you psychologically when you tell yourself “I’m only allowed to feel THESE emotions?” Answer: you repress the other ones. This in turn means you put up walls within your mind and spirit which, intentional or not, naturally grow into walls between yourself and other people. You end up FEELING LESS. Empathy wanes. You lose the ability to understand and relate to other people. This in turn makes you LESS LOVING, LESS COMPASSIONATE, LESS HAPPY.
In cutting yourself off from the emotions Abraham says are bad for you, you ultimately destroy your own humanity and the best parts of yourself. This in turn makes it easier for you to harm yourself and harm others. It is, after all, the person who feels the least, who is cut off from her or his emotions that is most capable of destructive behavior — to self and others.
And this is the danger point with Abraham and why it would be perhaps correct to label them as demons or manipulative spirits.
That is not to say that they are completely wrong. But each assertion needs to be thought about and weighed for its value with a focus on balance. Instead of arranging emotions from “good” to “bad” recognize that all emotions all important.
I am no longer a Christian, but I see the wisdom in Ecclesiastes 3:1-8:
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Abraham would have us believe that if we experience both sides that we are harming ourselves. In reflection I disagree. We are only harming ourselves if we 1) repress emotions instead of embrace them or 2) focus our energy on hurtful emotions (and therefore attract more hurt to our lives).
There are many sources of wisdom and inspiration. The human experience has no limit to these. Balance comes from applying wisdom from MANY sources of inspiration — from Christianity, from Judaism, from Islam; from Wicca, from Buddhism and Daoism, from Shamanism, from Asatru, and a thousand voices from across time and space.
Embrace your humanity. Feel your feelings. Keep your focus on what you want and always phrase everything positively. Look honestly at your life and think about what barriers your mind projects between the direction you choose for yourself and achieving it. Believe and have faith and confidence in your ability to achieve and reach what you focus. Say “I WILL” instead of “I want.”
The law of attraction is powerful. It is common sense. But even as mindfulness about it offers the potential to bring great good and joy in our lives, how we go about it also makes a difference. For when we wall up part of our emotions in our pursuit of happiness we ultimately destroy our ability to feel, to connect, and therefore be truly happy.