Discussion: Is Jesus’ birth worth celebrating?
“Is Jesus’ birth worth celebrating?” In it Valarie Talerico takes us beneath the surface of the Christian celebration of Jesus’ birth and looks at the inherent messages about female sexuality.
“A woman used is a woman soiled. A woman raped is a woman ruined. A girl who explores her body with a boy is a licked lollypop. A divorced woman shouldn’t get married in white. Only an unbedded and so unsullied female—a virgin—could be pure enough to birth a perfect child, the son of God.”
The article goes into depth into the cultural and religious history behind these ideas that a woman who has never been sexually touched is superior to all other females.
Looking deeper than the article does, I must point out that these same cultures and religions often employ rape as a sort of weapon: once used by the rapist, a woman is considered wholly unsuitable for marriage.
Though rape is a traumatic experience for the girl or woman, in societies and religious traditions where female conduct reflects on her male owners, the intent of the rapist is revealed to be more an attack on the men in her life, a way of dishonouring them through her.
And so we must examine in our own hearts what our values are and what we really want them to be. Do we want to continue to measure a woman’s worth based on how many male genitals have touched her body and in what fashion? Do we want to continue to weigh a person’s worth based on another person’s behaviour or experiences? Do we still want to confuse service/nurturing with subservience and demand women treat themselves as inferiors to men?
Will we take the dark road of hate and judgement or will we take the harder road of love, acceptance, and peace?
I cannot answer that question for you; only for myself. I choose love and peace. I choose to accept you just the way you are — free of judgement. You are wonderful just because you are you.
–Laurel A. Rockefeller